{"id":20,"date":"2011-09-12T21:48:28","date_gmt":"2011-09-12T21:48:28","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.sacredflight.com\/?p=20"},"modified":"2011-10-02T23:23:41","modified_gmt":"2011-10-02T23:23:41","slug":"sample-question-title","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.sacredflight.com\/?p=20","title":{"rendered":"Parent Question of the Week"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><strong>I\u2019ve been using a strong disciplinary approach with my teen. Results have been frustrating. Why doesn\u2019t this \u201cdisciplinary\u201d style of parenting work with teens?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>This &#8220;old school&#8221; approach doesn&#8217;t work because teens want freedom more than anything else. It is their top value (along with friends and a focus on themselves). Family systems can be closed or open. In a closed system, teens are given orders, threats, and warnings by their parents.\u00a0 In a totally open family, teens are allowed to do what they want, and parents often throw up their hands when the going gets tough. The first approach puts teens on a short leash, while the second puts them on one that is too long. The ideal system is somewhere in between. Teens need enough direction and control to guide them, yet enough room to let them breathe, learn, and discover.\u00a0 There must to be a balance between structure and flexibility. To sum up, a strong disciplinary approach overlooks the need for growth and exploration during the teen years.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I\u2019ve been using a strong disciplinary approach with my teen. Results have been frustrating. Why doesn\u2019t this \u201cdisciplinary\u201d style of<a href=\"https:\/\/www.sacredflight.com\/?p=20\" class=\"searchmore\">Read the Rest&#8230;<\/a><\/p>\n<div class=\"clr\"><\/div>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-20","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.sacredflight.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/20","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.sacredflight.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.sacredflight.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.sacredflight.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.sacredflight.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=20"}],"version-history":[{"count":6,"href":"https:\/\/www.sacredflight.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/20\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":510,"href":"https:\/\/www.sacredflight.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/20\/revisions\/510"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.sacredflight.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=20"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.sacredflight.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=20"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.sacredflight.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=20"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}